We all have at some point or the other in our lives had friends and relation coming over who had badly-behaved children. They broke your Mom’s (of Wife’s) bone-china cups, painted the walls, thrown tantrums and generally made life miserable for all. And they did it all as though it was their birth-right! And they got away with all of it because no one – including the offending kids’ parents, say a word! Yes, not even a word. Some parents will have tears in their eyes – not for your types whose things have been destroyed but for their child whose tantrums and wants have not been met!
Parenting thus is a difficult exercise given the multiple emotions we carry- of ourselves, our families, neighbors, and friends! In these times of good incomes and wants coming out of our ears, it is only expected that our children be as pampered as possible. And the outcome? Brats who turn monsters with time and slowly and steadily gobble us, one finger at a time! This could be the only time most parents-of-brats would be forced to think of those wonderful parenting skills which they left by the wayside in favor of easy flicks such as mobile-phone addictions, junk foods, trips to the mall and the likes!
Hi, I am Sanju Nair, a trained life management coach, DMIT Trainer in the field of Total Personality Development and Rearing and today I shall tell you some good parenting tips for those with small children or are in the processing of expecting one or are planning one!
Good parenting tip # 1: Your life with all its ups and downs was yours. Do not draw inferences from it and try giving your little one all the goodies of the world. Goods do not equate love. They are just that, goods. Love remains love and so to character and concern. You might have gone through poverty and learned the value of things. Let a part of that learning dawn upon your child. Do not create an illusion of a super-smooth road when you know for sure that there are potholes! Let them take a few hits. Let them learn.
Good parenting tip # 2: Your parents’ time was different in that roles across parents were strictly defined. Now, a man is expected to play a woman’s role and vice-versa. Since there is nothing seriously wrong about it, why feel bad about it? Instead, go ahead and do it! It shall leave a lasting impression on your child of all the nice things that you did while he/ she grew up. Yes, it is a fact that households, where parents share responsibilities, have the happiest and most positive of children!
Good parenting tip # 3: Never wash your dirty linens in the presence of your little one. If you do so, you are inadvertently bringing up a Frankenstein Monster who would not only imbibe all the wrong values but also all the cuss words that you speak in your moment of anger. Imagine him/ her using these cuss words in front of your choicest of friends and relations! Your reputation would be zilch…right there!
Good parenting tip # 4: Involve your family in your activity. If you are an investment banker and your spouse an engineer, try and bring elements of your work in a fun way before your kid(s) so that they understand you, your trade and the efforts you put in bring bread to the table at home. In doing so, you maker children humble
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Good parenting tip # 5: Listen more intensely. Kids talk may seem just that i.e, child-talk. But negating the same may be at its peril. Children express themselves at an age and before people they are most comfortable with. By shutting them up, you are guiding them towards being bottled anger, perverts who cannot express or complete under confident introverts who grow up to be adults who cannot face up to the world or take care of themselves
Good parenting tip # 6: Limit exposure to gadgets. Parents give gadgets to children as young as a few years thinking that it would increase their knowledge. Nothing compares to physical parenting because we learn from other humans and not inanimate machines which cannot emote or show emotions. Machines of any description can at best be aids but cannot replace the real thing which is YOU!
Good parenting tip # 7: REFER TO ALL THE POINTS MENTIONED ABOVE!
You can be as good as any parent you admire provided you want to. Where there is a will, there’s a way. So, develop the will to be good parents. Because if you don’t take efforts when you can, you may have to take efforts when you can’t!